tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774737720924972067.post620762438086405419..comments2024-01-12T01:36:29.402-08:00Comments on Bumps and Grind: Breastfeeding - and me.Kathrynhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05622217811948271066noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774737720924972067.post-57702631912707088932014-07-11T12:54:14.924-07:002014-07-11T12:54:14.924-07:00Pregnancy and motherhood is already hard as it is ...Pregnancy and motherhood is already hard as it is and the last thing that a mother needs is someone to pressure them to do things just because it is what they believe in. I am so glad that everything worked out for you and thanks for sharing your experience. I respect your decisions. I am glad that you found out things that works well with your and your baby =) #PoCoLoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774737720924972067.post-40169615594573480882014-07-11T07:11:43.786-07:002014-07-11T07:11:43.786-07:00Loved your post Kathryn. Like you, I'd imagine...Loved your post Kathryn. Like you, I'd imagined skin-to-skin and blissful breast feeding experiences. Nothing turned out the way it was supposed to, but I know that everything that could have done was done. I'm horrified about your experience - breast may be best - but only when it's appropriate. I'm glad your little one is now thriving, and you still managed to enjoy blissful moments with him xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774737720924972067.post-72699641761671899462014-07-11T03:08:25.486-07:002014-07-11T03:08:25.486-07:00I wanted to BF too and expected to be able to. Ha...I wanted to BF too and expected to be able to. Had a (calm - 13 hours on induction drip, only getting from 1-3cm dilated) unplanned csection, and he seemed to latch on each time, but wouldn't suck. (turned out 2.5y down the line that he had tongue tie which probably had something to do with it).<br /><br />But I found I wasn't really pressurised at all. We had to hand express for a bit, then after 2 nights, he had to be FF as his blood sugar was low having not really fed anything. Yes I was disappointed, and planned to keep trying at home. Because they said his latch was good, I thought it was just a case of milk needing to come in properly. Of course he wasn't having any of it and we ended up FF as I couldn't get on with a breast pump.<br /><br />I had thought (from other friends who'd been in the same hospital) that I'd be marched off to the pumping room. But not one midwife suggested it, and I couldn't get out to baby cafe, not being able to drive. FF ended up being brilliant for us, and he thrived on it. I didn't really feel bad as mums have to feed their babies in the way that works for all of them, and just like a natural birth wasn't happening for us (lazy baby), neither was BFEmmaThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00273958012836742960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774737720924972067.post-64890180433538193392014-07-11T01:45:18.094-07:002014-07-11T01:45:18.094-07:00This is a great post. There is a lot of pressure ...This is a great post. There is a lot of pressure to BF and not enough honest balanced advice given. It's great to hear you have had a lovey experience with your baby after your birth experiences #POCOLOAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18441244675977820396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774737720924972067.post-28799656734421252252014-07-09T11:51:42.707-07:002014-07-09T11:51:42.707-07:00Thanks so much for commenting SB - it's great ...Thanks so much for commenting SB - it's great to know that a postive experience is possible, after such a horrendous first time! I can identify very much with the pressure you put yourself under (I did exactly the same thing - also to the point of hallucinations, and eventually severe psychosis). We live and learn! XKathrynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05622217811948271066noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3774737720924972067.post-39928566647032371702014-07-09T11:38:31.866-07:002014-07-09T11:38:31.866-07:00There is just so much pressure to breastfeed, espe...There is just so much pressure to breastfeed, especially when you are in that whole world of NCT classes and midwives. In my case I think that feeling I had "failed" at giving birth (emergency C-section) made me utterly obsessed with succeeding at breast feeding to make up for it, even when I was so exhausted I was hallucinating. <br /><br />It's such a fine line, I had some midwives tell me I should supplement with formula and I was angry with them for not supporting me, I sobbed in despair when my husband gave our baby a bottle of formula so he didn't have to wake me half an hour after the last feed. But with hindsight they were probably right (my husband certainly was!) I just couldn't see it at the time.<br /><br />Having now had another baby, after a very calm, planned C-section, I also realise that sometimes it works and sometimes it just doesn't. My first was a dreadful feeder and I wonder if her own exhaustion from the labour was part of the reason. My second, popped out, tried to feed while still in surgery and never looked back from there! <br /><br />Will hopefully join you for the pnd hour later <br />SBxSouthwarkBellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14643735374319567512noreply@blogger.com